How to Make Friends in a New City

Recently a new grad asked me how I found activities and made friends in a new city. It was a surprise to me, but apparently I made it look pretty easy. There’s been a bit of trial and error and I’m definitely still trying to find my way some days, but I have made a lot of progress since I moved to STL two years ago. I think now is the perfect time to share my tips on how to make friends in a new city. 

Work Friends

Sometimes getting too close to the people you work with isn’t appropriate, but if the vibe of your workplace is pretty relaxed this can be a great place to start. This works especially well if you start with a cohort, but I did not and still managed to find coworkers with similar interests. Don’t be afraid to be the one to ask if anyone would like a mid-morning coffee break. 

Friend of a Friend of a Friend

It’s important to reach out to your network of friends because if no one knows you’re in a new city they won’t set you up for Friend dates. It can be surprising who comes out of the woodwork when you put yourself out there.

Alumni Groups

Most cities, and even towns, have alumni groups. When I moved I immediately joined my university’s alumni group and the local chapter of alumnae for my sorority. Some alumni groups are more active than others, but even if there aren’t a lot of activities to participate in, they are at least a good pool of people to meet. You already have your alumni status in common and potentially similar experiences. 

Social and Volunteer Organizations

For me these have been the best. It’s always easier to get to know someone when you’re engaged in an activity. I’ve had some of the best conversations while painting fences and sorting through canned goods. I even met my roommate through a volunteer organization. 

Workshops and Classes

These are great because not only do you learn a new skill or get a good workout in, you meet people who are also interested in doing the exact same thing. This works best when it’s a class you take repetitively. Whether it’s a Wednesday morning barre class you go to every week or a set of cake decorating workshops, you get face time with people enough to build a rapport. I find nothing more bonding than laughing with someone because my legs are shaking from exertion.